Is Your Thinking Too Small? Think Bigger!
Many of us know that we are capable of more. We know that a better life is possible. We long for it. We see others with the life we’d like to have and yet, things have not changed for us. Or, they have not changed fast enough. This article is dedicated to those who are stuck. My hope is that this article will inspire you to take some action to change some things in your life so that you can be on a path to more happiness and prosperity.
9 Signs You Are Thinking Too Small
1. When you take stock and look at your life, you are mostly focused on a miserable present and not the future
2. You feel you are stuck “in a rut” and can’t find a way to get out of it
3. You have feelings of self doubt which prevent you from taking advantage of opportunities
4. You let other people tell you what you are capable of doing
5. You start something and can’t seem to find the time to finish it, or are constantly making excuses
6. You start something and give up because of a fear of failure without considering your options
7. You are good, but know you can be better or more consistent, and don’t do anything about it
8. You use often words in your language like “I shouldn’t,” “I can’t,” “I don’t think I can,” “There’s no way,””Why can’t I just,” “I’ve never,””How can I,”and similar phrases
9. If things don’t work out- you blame others and often don’t take responsibility
Now that you know the telltale signs of small thinkers-let’s look at the difference between small and big thinkers.
10 Characteristics of Big Thinkers
1. Take the time to look at what is getting in the way of their change
2. Take action when they need to by making a dedicated and consistent effort to change what needs to be changed
3. Believe that they should be accountable to themselves and others
4. Are honest with themselves and others about their barriers to success
5. Consistently set deadlines and are clear on timelines for themselves and others
6. Take the time to know themselves and when they need to delegate things they do not like or that are time wasters
7. Take the time to explore what motivates and inspires them
8. Invest the time and money to get the help they need to succeed
9. Always look at their situation, both as it is in the present, and as it could be in the future
10. Explore protective function of negative thinking, and replace irrational negative thinking with positive thinking
Obviously, this is a short list of what I have seen as a coach and therapist of characteristics of small and big thinkers. These patterns of thinking and behaving have evolved over many years- so let’s now explore the process of making the change.
Making the Change
So how does one make the switch from small to big thinking? Make no mistake, no one can change their way of thinking in a short period of time. This way of thinking has served you well in some respects so you need to explore what to retain, what to discard, and what to add. By giving these issues some thought and exploration; both looking at the present and future, as well as creating new patterns of thinking and behavior- one can begin to live a more purposeful life.
Methods of Thinking Bigger
I believe that anyone can learn to think big. I do not believe that this way of thinking and acting is innate for all. The method I use with my coaching clients involves taking one situation from their life that they’d like to improve on, exploring that situation in depth; creating and implementing strategies to work on that situation. In the process of doing this focused work, new, constructive patterns of thought and behavior are learned that can be used in other problematic situations.
We use techniques and tools borrowed from cognitive behavior therapy, positive psychology, mindfulness, my coaching work, Neuro-Linguistic Programming and others methodologies.
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